c. Strategic Attitude Shifts

Prepare for the anxious moment

Let’s discuss how to prepare for the anxious moment. We’ve already covered the therapeutic attitude of willing acceptance and differentiating between anxiety and danger. Let’s quickly review. Remember that for all techniques, we’re always trying to orient towards the therapeutic attitude of willing acceptance. When we think about how to get to the therapeutic attitude of …

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Celebrate uncertainty

Here are a few questions to consider about this topic: In what areas of your life are you most sensitive to uncertainty? Does the feeling of uncertainty make it difficult for you to identify how you can take responsibility? That is, does uncertainty make you feel like you don’t have the ability to respond when …

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Avoid avoidances

The road to recovery is paved with details! We need to identify and observe the details of your anxious moment to know what to challenge, what to expose you to, and how to do the opposite. Anxiety disorders are created, maintained, and intensified by avoidance, and overcome with approach and exposure. Let’s start with understanding …

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Perfectionism is the wrong strategy for excellence

Perfectionism is a cognitive pattern, with behavioral implications, that maintains many different responses leading to anxiety. You can think about perfectionism as a problem of strategy, not outcome. Many perfectionists struggle to challenge their perfectionism because they’re afraid that it will lead to dropping their standards. They will no longer be striving for excellence. The most …

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Embrace your fear of evaluation

Social anxiety is maintained by resistance to the possibility of judgement and rejection, due to  intolerance of the feeling of embarrassment and shame and/or catastrophic thinking about the consequences of judgment. Let’s call this fear of evaluation.  Notice my focus on the possibility of judgment and rejection. It’s always a possibility. Remember from our discussion last week …

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Play with worry

Let’s talk cognitive process. Your process for any task is your series of steps to achieve your end. Your process for brushing your teeth or cleaning your kitchen may seem to you like “that’s just how you do it,” but if you surveyed the next 10 people you encounter it is very likely that their process …

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