c. Acceptance through Willing Exposure

Prepare for the anxious moment

Hi there, Group. Thanks for your time. I’m grateful for the chance to spend time with you. To listen to this as a podcast, click here. This week, we’re discussing how to prepare for the anxious moment. We’ve already covered the therapeutic attitude of willing acceptance and differentiating between anxiety and danger. Let’s quickly review. Remember …

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The therapeutic attitude of willing acceptance

The first Core Principle Module is The Therapeutic Attitude of Willing Acceptance.This module is an introductory session and a summary of the next five which explain the therapeutic attitude of willing acceptance in greater detail.  Differentiate between anxiety and dangerPrepare for the anxious moment Embrace uncertaintyAvoid avoidancesFloat through anxious experiences mindfully Meet Wise Mind Do you …

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Run after the bus, sometimes.

Hi there, Group. Great week. Question for you: When you are half a block away and people are getting on the bus you’re about to miss, what do you do?  Your answer helps us understand your experience during incidental exposure.  The short answer is run after the bus, sometimes. Flexibly. Humorously. Like your life depends on …

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Intentional Practice – Part I

You’re wondering if you are doing ERP correctly and if it will make you better. Great question. There’s a lot to discuss, so we’ll break this up over the next several weeks.  ERP stands for exposure and response prevention. It is a cognitive behavioral treatment technique. Anxiety is created, maintained, and intensified by experiential avoidance. …

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The present is a gift.

Let’s elaborate on building a compassionate attitude towards the present moment.  While anxious, so many sufferers have critical thoughts like, I’m supposed to be mindful right now. I should be using my skills. I’m not doing this right. It makes everything worse. If this is you, try cueing yourself with My present moment is a gift I can offer myself right …

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Of course I suffer.

Let’s talk more about self-criticism and self-compassion.  Your suffering isn’t just because of recurrent unwanted intrusive thoughts, chronic worry, a depressed mood, or another uncomfortable private experience. The interpretation that you shouldn’t have such an experience and that there is something bad, weak, or crazy about you for such experience creates, maintains, and intensifies your suffering …

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I’ll do it scared.

“I’m not sure what will kill me, but it won’t be shame.” The content typically matters when you’re feeling is shame. If you think a component of your suffering is shame, find a way to get some words around that, either by talking or by writing or both. Then, share it with someone you trust. Use shame …

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Shame is a cue to connect

There might be a reason that your anxiety or OCD content is stuck. It isn’t because of the content. It’s never because of the content. It might be because of shame. It’s okay to feel shame. It’s a feeling, not a fact or prediction. Let’s go towards it.  Shame is the feeling you have when …

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