p. Compassion

The therapeutic attitude of willing acceptance

The first Core Principle Module is The Therapeutic Attitude of Willing Acceptance.This module is an introductory session and a summary of the next five which explain the therapeutic attitude of willing acceptance in greater detail.  Differentiate between anxiety and dangerPrepare for the anxious moment Embrace uncertaintyAvoid avoidancesFloat through anxious experiences mindfully Meet Wise Mind Do you …

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The present is a gift.

Let’s elaborate on building a compassionate attitude towards the present moment.  While anxious, so many sufferers have critical thoughts like, I’m supposed to be mindful right now. I should be using my skills. I’m not doing this right. It makes everything worse. If this is you, try cueing yourself with My present moment is a gift I can offer myself right …

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Shame is a cue to connect.

There might be a reason that your anxiety or OCD content is stuck. It isn’t because of the content. It’s never because of the content. It might be because of shame. It’s okay to feel shame. It’s a feeling, not a fact or prediction. Let’s go towards it.  Shame is the feeling you have when …

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Of course I suffer.

Let’s talk more about self-criticism and self-compassion.  Your suffering isn’t just because of recurrent unwanted intrusive thoughts, chronic worry, a depressed mood, or another uncomfortable private experience. The interpretation that you shouldn’t have such an experience and that there is something bad, weak, or crazy about you for such experience creates, maintains, and intensifies your suffering …

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I get to do that.

Over-responsibility of thoughts about the futureA few weeks ago, we focused on over-responsibility in both the present and the past. Several people asked about over-responsibility in the future. Thanks for the reminder. I forgot to worry about the future. The short answer is that it’s the same answer minus content plus anticipatory anxiety and emotional perfectionism. Got that?  Thought-action …

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Clinical perfectionism

Let’s come back to the concept of clinical perfectionism as a problem of strategy, not outcome. We’re not challenging your high standards and desire to do a great job. We’re challenging the strategies your mind uses to achieve your goals. Perfectionism shifts from being workable and effective to unworkable and ineffective when: You prioritize achieving a …

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Post-event processing

Post-event processing is a term from social anxiety research. It is used to describe the combination of worry, rumination, and self-criticism an individual with social anxiety experiences after a social event. In Huddle.care, we seem to be using it to refer to the after-effects of every anxious situation. Consider it our growing shared language.  The …

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