a. Psychological Flexibility

“I’ll do it scared.”

“I’m not sure what will kill me, but it won’t be shame.” The content typically matters when you’re feeling is shame. If you think a component of your suffering is shame, find a way to get some words around that, either by talking or by writing or both. Then, share it with someone you trust. Use shame …

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Shame is a cue to connect

There might be a reason that your anxiety or OCD content is stuck. It isn’t because of the content. It’s never because of the content. It might be because of shame. It’s okay to feel shame. It’s a feeling, not a fact or prediction. Let’s go towards it.  Shame is the feeling you have when …

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Shame

Shame is a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety. Although very painful, the capacity for shame is healthy and part of being human. The function of shame is to prevent us from damaging our relationships and motivate us to repair them if we’ve damaged them.  As Brene Brown explains, guilt says “I’ve …

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How is a healthy lifestyle related to my sense of wellbeing?

In the search for wellbeing, many people try all kinds of interventions to help themselves feel better before seeking psychotherapy. They or their friends and family see they aren’t acting like themselves, that they are sleeping, eating, drinking, and exercising differently. They are tense and irritable or withdrawn and isolating themselves more often. People try …

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What are the different ways to think about relating to your thoughts?

Throughout the brief history of psychology, there have been many schools of thought regarding how thoughts relate to wellbeing. Below is a very brief summary of the beliefs about thoughts that the various theoretical orientations assume. Every theoretical orientation starts from a complex understanding of human experience and skilled clinicians of every modality effectively use …

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